Hi. I hope you are doing well. A couple of weeks ago, I got asked you all to send me your questions because I knew I was going put together this post. I seem to get the same questions over and over again, so I thought I would just write a post and answer them all here. I usually try to answer them when I get them, but I think writing them on here will help me give a little more detailed answer. So I will jump right in.
How old are you?
I just turned (swallow) 40! Insert cry emoji (lol). Actually, aging has never been an issue for me. I’ve really enjoyed the process.
How tall are you?
5’7. I am sure this one is for shopping reference, or else I cant imagine why you would want to know that.
Do you work?
Yes, I am a full-time mom, Ha! In truth, no I do not have an actual job that pays me a salary. One of our agreements, when we decided to start a family, was that I would have the option to stay home with the baby for the first two years, should I want to. Up until the baby came, I wasn’t sure what I was going to do. I assumed that I would want to go back to work asap, but once he was here, I decided that I would take at least 6 months before making the decision, then six months came, and I was not ready so I extended it another 6 months. It’ll be a year in two months, and I can with certainty say that I am not ready to go back. I am obsessed with him!
Are you and Pete married, whey aren’t you married?
These two go hand in hand. We are not legally married, but we are registered domestic partners and our entire life is combined as if we were married. Now for why aren’t we married? I have never been the girl who dreamed of a wedding, In fact, the idea of planning a wedding doesn’t sound fun to me at all. We actually have friends in the middle of planning a wedding and it really doesn’t seem like it’s a fun process, not to mention it’s so expensive! We’ve been able to come up with better ways to spend our hard-earned money. LoL. So to put it simply, I do not have any desire to plan a wedding, but at the same time, I do not have the personality to just hand it over to someone else…, And no we will not just go to the courthouse or do a “Vegas” wedding. However, now that we have a baby together, I personally am starting to think of marriage a little different now. Who knows, maybe 2018 will be the year I start planning my wedding…..
Are you having more kids?
This is always an interesting question when it comes up, especially in person. I wish it was a clear yes or no. If you’ve been following along for a while, you know Easton is an IVF baby, our little miracle that we prayed and wished for. Of course, I would like to replicate all these amazing feelings, and I would love to give him a sibling. In a perfect world, a sister. Can you tell I’ve thought about it? I can’t commit to a yes because it’s really not up to us. Time is against us. In reproductive years I am really old, and even though IVF has high success rates, our success rate is much lower. We do plan on talking to our fertility specialist once we get back from our Italy trip to have our lab tests done so we can get a new baseline. It’s been three years since we started the process, and If our chances haven’t declined significantly, we might give it another try, if they have, we really need to sit down and discuss how and if we want to grow our family.
What does Pete do?
Pete is in the medical industry, devices to be specific. He spends ninety percent of his days in the operating room, which is why he is always in medical scrubs.
How do you and Pete manage finances since you are not married?
Prior to me giving birth and being employed, our finances were separate, but not really. We had separate bank accounts, but we both had access to each other. We’ve never kept score on money spent. We split things however they came naturally. But, when we started talking about starting a family, we started having an open discussion about it. We got on the same page about personal spending, saving for our children(s) education, and our ultimate financial goals. Once we were both on the same page, we really hold ourselves accountable. Up until now, we have not had another single discussion or disagreement about it. We actually have very open, direct conversations about where we are. I think one of the most important conversations you can have with your partner, is about finances. I do plan on writing a longer post in more detail about this topic because it is so important.
Where are your favorite places to shop?
Gosh, this is a loaded question. Honestly, I will shop anywhere and everywhere for regular clothes. But my go-to’s for designer stuff is the following because they have the best selection and best sales!
High-End Department Stores: Barney’s, Saks, I like these locally
How did you get Easton to sleep through the night?
I consulted with a sleep nanny and took the takingcarababies.com sleep course. Some people roll their eyes when I say I did this, but I am a first-time mom and I had no idea how to approach sleep with my baby. We were so sleep deprived, we were hanging on by a string, we had to do something. Once we learned that we were doing everything wrong (lol) and fixed it, Easton started sleeping through the night and has not regressed at all! I biggest thing we had to address was his sleeping environment. I wrote about it here.